RAJ's Tips For Understanding Women

Fellas, we are now ready to perform the old try understanding women trick! Impress your boys with this mesmorizing feat by showing them you have decipered the hidden language women use!

The following are general insights I have amassed from years of trying to figure out what my wife is talking about or how she feels. Although understanding women is an in exact "science" we still have a general idea about what they are thinking. Hopefully you will find this information helpful and enlightening!

Tip #1 - Learn to be a good Listener : There have been many times my wife was talking and it would appear to her that I was not listening. When she complained I would then be able to recite whatever she said with amazing accuracy. Guys I'm quite sure this scenario has played out for you too at one time or another.

After some time I learned that my wife didn't really want the preprogrammed response that I would give her. She just wanted me to pay rapt attention to what she was saying (this is very difficult especially when I'm reading the sports section!).

When I finally figured out what she wanted I made an effort to put aside some "listening" time for her everyday (nah I'm lying I couldn't possibly do that everyday). I discovered many things I didn't know about her like where she worked and that she really spent my money on $300 designer pocket books!

All jokes aside fellas listening to what your spouse says is a key "skill" that you should develop. It's not rocket science (even though it sure felt like it sometimes) so if you want to stay out of the dog house learn to listen real keenly and u will be well on your way to understanding women!

Tip #2 - Try A Little Tenderness : Guys I'm sure we all can be accused of being a little too macho at one time or another. Sometimes we have to be just a little "softer" with our women. I know there are times when my wife wants to a little attention and I'm too much into myself to give it to her.

It's not weak to show a kinder and gentler side. Show your spouse some love by buying some flowers every now and then. Send her a card in the mail telling her how much she means to you. Cook a meal for her(if you can cook that is - don't experiment here). Be excited to see her when you come home (I know that will be hard to do everyday but give it a try).

I know that there are some women that seem to prefer you to be "gangster" (rough, hardcore) but I'm thinking they are in the minority. You don't have to be rough and controlling for your woman to be into you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with showing your spouse some affection and sensitivity (not sensitive like micheal jackson though). Remember it's not always all about you!

What's the point to all of this? Keeping her happy makes it less likely for her to wander off and seek the attention if you aren't giving it to her. Plus it makes it much easier to live with her so when you want to hang with the boys it will not be an issue.

Since you have been the attentive dutiful spouse you have earned some credits and can have a little "freedom". Moreover, having peace in the house is especially important during football season!

Yeah brothers I know when it comes to understanding women nothing is foolproof but at least we can give it the old college try cause there's nothing like having an unhappy woman around! So get inspired and try a little tenderness and see how this improves your life.

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