Practical Marriage Advice - How To Make Your Marriage At Least 13 Years

At one time or another I'm sure we have all needed some practical marriage advice to smooth things over with our spouses.

While I'm not a professional marriage counselor(then again even they need help - for instance Dr. Phil) I feel that based on the longevity of my marriage I can offer you some common sense advice that you will find helpful.

Many of the tips I'm about to give you are straight forward and should be obvious. Some of the marriage advice may be a little more subtle, so you may have to let them "sink" in before you make sense of it.

Scientists claim that happily married couples live longer than singles (maybe that's because you don't have to pay all the bills by yourself!)and the entire family is happier in general.

So fellas, to the extent that we can keep the marriage together we can have a happier existence in general. Now without further ado here's the rest of my marriage advice.

It really gets to me when I see couples cussing each other out in public. The woman might say "Why can't you keep a job you lazy mother@#$%^7!" and the guy may respond by saying "Why should I, I got you to take care of me you stupid *&^%$!" After throughly berating each other they may even come to blows.

Obviously that's not the way to handle the situation! Tearing each other to pieces never has and never will solve the problem. When people are angry many hurtful things can be said. Most of the time we will regret what we have said but the damage has been done already.

Being a man I know I have been guilty of being macho and wanting to have the last word and even being disrespectful to my wife. When I calm down and examine my actions I realize that "beating my chest" only compounds the problem. How I am going to get respect if I don't give it?!

So fellas to make a long story short if you want R E S P E C T you better be prepared to give it!

Tip #2 - Treat Your Spouse Like A Human Being - What is RAJ talking about? Treat my spouse like a human being?! How else can I treat her? What kind of crazy marriage advice is he giving now?!

Well guys, I have witnessed men treating their significant other like an inanimate object many times. Some men feel that after they put the ring on they have ownership rights (last time anyone had "rights" like that was in the late 1860's and that was rightfully abolished).

While legally you do have rights you are not given the right to treat your wife like a piece of unfeeling garbage! Monitoring her every whereabout and micro-managing her every move is not healthy. Treat her like grown woman not a child, trust her and give her space.

If your spouse is really into you you have nothing to fear. Many times guys are up to no good and in order to justify their actions they use reverse psychology and constantly accuse their wife of fooling around. Some men also resort to physical as well as verbal abuse to get their point across.

Now guys, I'm not trying to be sanctimonious, but if you were being treated like that what would you do? That's right you get as far away from the situation as you can! So if you want your wife to stay around, forget about the head games and the intimidation it's just not necessary.

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